♫ Somewhere in the middle...

For my favorites...

Looking around, it actually hurts to see some of the misery going on in the world. From the guy on the corner, to the hurting friend, to the defeated leaders. I see people stuck between who they were, and who they are going. I see people in the middle of where they want to be, and who they're going to be.

Feeling trapped in the "right now" is the worst feeling in the world when it's not a comfortable place to be.

Feeling stuck in a situation, ready to run but afraid to quit, is terrifying.

Wanting something so bad, and finding it just out of reach is frustrating.

Trying to decide if a goodbye, or forgiveness is the better option.

Fixing a broken relationship, or realizing it was never a relationship to begin with and no longer worth the effort, is painful.

Feeling like a mom, a wife, a homemaker, a housewife, and never a person...is exhausting.

Having an insane amount of debt, and no money to dig your way out of it is the definition of insomnia.

Facing at night your worst fears, anxiety's, and all the things you push off just to focus on the day, is excruciating.

It makes you wonder, doesn't it, if you're in those places because you're afraid to risk something?

It makes you question if you've got what it takes to move forward, instead instead of staying still.

It makes you curious if there really is something else out there.

Remember:

You're not alone. You're not the first person to go through this.

Hurt people hurt people. Loved people love people. Love people. When you're hurting, love anyway.

"Your biggest break can come from never quitting. Being at the right place at the right time can only happen when you keep moving toward the next opportunity."

Also, never ever be afraid to say yes to yourself. Say Yes To Yourself.

"Giving yourself over like this is probably one of the most challenging things you can do in your life. And it’s also one of the most important decisions you can make.

When you move in the direction of complete commitment to your path, you simultaneously move in the direction of radical honesty with yourself. And that means becoming honest with yourself about what you really do want. You say Yes to the real power that you have inside of you."

Zealous Living

"I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. The end result of a relentless pursuit and a transformed heart is a life of zealous for the advancement for God. He created me to accomplish. He created me to reach."

Yours Truly,
Nomz

♫ How to make yourself UNhappy

It’s all too easy to talk about happiness, how to obtain it. How to be peaceful from the inside out. It’s harder to talk openly about what makes a person unhappy. It’s hard, sometimes, to even admit that you’re unhappy in order to move on to happy. What I’m hoping with this blog, mostly, is for people to realize when they’re in that place, and how to change one thing at a time to make those feelings go away.

So, below is a list. A list of things that make people UNhappy. Feel free to print the list out, check off the ones that you are, and find a way to reverse it.

*Be completely and totally wrapped up in a guy.

Who needs self worth and independence, right? It might feel like complete bliss…until you hit a point where you fully understand what alone feels like.

*Eat very unhealthily

If it tastes good, eat it. It will have little effect on you…aside from poor health, dry skin, wrinkled skin, faster aging process, breaking down from the inside out. Of course, you don’t have to eat healthy all the time, but eating out for every meal, not watching what you eat, what time you eat, how many snacks you consume, or how much alcohol you intake, has serious long term affects that any surgery, pill, or program will never be able to reverse.

*Talk about everybody else, a lot

It’s completely unavoidable to talk about other people. Gossip is in our nature, especially if we’re female. But if the only two things you are able to bring up in conversation is the weather, or another person…you’re forever going to live in jealousy and negativity. For every negative thing you notice in somebody else’s life, try to find one positive. I mean at least that girl you can’t stand has adorable hair, right?

*Pretend like everything is ok, all the time

Pretend your entire life has windows. Now pretend that your windows are open all the time. What would they see? Would they see what you’re portraying your Facebook and Twitter account? Or would they hardly recognize you? Of course, life comes with blinds that you can pull down every now and then to protect what’s yours, but putting on a false image to make yourself feel better is a much different thing than privacy.

*Surround yourself by negative people

Talk constantly about what you don’t have, how terrible it is that you’re stuck in the same grind every single day, and that nobody ever notices how much you’re accomplishing. Or…surround yourself by people that challenge you to try harder, to make some changes, and encourage you on days that you’re down. Having friends that agree with your misery really aren’t friends at all. They’re just throwing mud in to your already deep enough hole.

*Ignore the little things, they don’t really matter anyway

Little things are just that, right? They’re so small that they don’t add up to the weight on your shoulders or even come close to lessening it. Then again, maybe the little things are there to get us through the hard times. They might be the pebbles we have to step on in order to cross the mountain in front of us.

Confession: I’m an optimistic person. But once I get on a rant and a roll, it’s hard to sway me otherwise. I let things get under my skin, and then I whine profusely about them until I feel better. Which usually outlasts my toddlers' tantrums. I’m working on finding a way around dwelling on things, around being moody, and around throwing tantrums internally. The above, are all things I’ve personally dealt with, and found a way to turn around.

Please feel free to use our anonymous comment ability to tell us your short-comings, how we can pray for you, or what challenges you’re facing lately. Life isn’t easy, but you don’t have to make it harder.

Yours Truly,
Nomz