tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post5776194555329601091..comments2023-06-10T06:29:26.368-06:00Comments on Daily Offensive (baha!): **I have met a man....Daily Offensive (baha!)http://www.blogger.com/profile/03047182991316003595noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post-47833029073475458402010-02-18T19:44:14.413-07:002010-02-18T19:44:14.413-07:00Thanks, Kelly. :)Thanks, Kelly. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post-87584961663919537902010-02-18T17:20:18.388-07:002010-02-18T17:20:18.388-07:00Im no skeptic and I understand your plight. Howev...Im no skeptic and I understand your plight. However (sorry, there is a however), it NEVER hurts to take your time, but it often hurts to rush. That applies to cooking, making wine, teaching a kid to read, driving a car, spending money, and almost any other aspect of life. Why not apply it to a relationship?<br /><br />I always tell my kids, "All GOOD things take time."<br /><br />Just words for thought.kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07124858969051828724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post-5146948572629047702010-02-17T21:26:23.879-07:002010-02-17T21:26:23.879-07:00I've thought of all this myself... And I don&...I've thought of all this myself... And I don't disagree with ya'll, but you are also right in saying "when you know, you know". And the fact is, I know! And the main thing is that we are keeping our relationship pure (not sleeping together) before marriage. Having been together 2 months, until yesterday had not allowed ourselves any passionate moments. And then all of a sudden, we were kissing and cuddling, and it was amazing! It is really hard to control my thoughts in moments of weakness, and it is very important to both of us that we not go any further than where we have gone now before we wed. We've both been praying for strength in this area, and it's very important that we don't give the Enemy a foothold as far as that goes. Neither of us has ever had this kind of relationship before, and so it's difficult to flee the temptation when it comes... A lot of churches don't allow for long engagements for this very reason.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post-77533769595856608182010-02-17T16:08:00.596-07:002010-02-17T16:08:00.596-07:00I agree with the above Anonymous... I know this wi...I agree with the above Anonymous... I know this will come across as cautious and cynical, but there is so much to learn about a person. Not that you can't in such a short time, but 6 weeks really isn't that long. A lot can happen very quickly. I've been told that when you meet "The One", you'll know it. I have yet to find out what this is like, which is partially where my skepticism comes in. I have no doubt that he is a good man and I know he'll take care of you for many, many years, but since you've got all that time, why rush it? Be happy where you are in your relationship and enjoy your time together. I don't see why you need to wait until the end of the year, but I'd give yourself another couple months before you take that next big step. I applaud your efforts for pre-marital counseling, and I encourage you to seek more through your pastor. Best wishes!Breezyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12305448807527128443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post-61916034370470837812010-02-16T16:38:45.193-07:002010-02-16T16:38:45.193-07:00I can really say that I have no idea who you are, ...I can really say that I have no idea who you are, and I am very happy for you and the wonderful man you seemed to have found. Once a girl finds that, it is a great feeling.<br />The only question I have (not words of caution, necessarily!) is why the rush? If you absolutely know that you are in love with this person and going to be with them for the rest of your life, why hurry up and get married? Why not enjoy being pursued and have fun dating and getting to know each other more? If you have the rest of your lives, will it really matter 10 years down the road if you got married now or if you got married in a year? <br />I'm not saying you are doing it wrong. It does seem a bit hurried, in my opinion, but everyone has different situations. I think it is great you are putting your faith first, but what's wrong with taking your time?<br />Wishing you the best.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post-19789007252127457192010-02-16T11:01:11.290-07:002010-02-16T11:01:11.290-07:00This is me again (anonymous), with an update for y...This is me again (anonymous), with an update for ya'll. I just wanted to clue everyone in on how God is working in our lives. I feel like things are completely different now than they were when I typed out my original blog, but only in the very best of ways. My sweetheart has opened up to me and to God in ways I never have experienced before. God is doing a great work in us, and He's using us as tools in one another's lives to bring us close to Him. What an unexpected gift! <br /><br />I have also spoken with many in the interim time that have nothing but words of encouragement for me and my guy. I'm pleased! God saw a need in my heart for an uplifting word, and has delivered many. And now I no longer need words of encouragement, nor to seek approval through man, as God has given me every sign I need to know that HE encourages and approves of my relationship. Praise God!!<br /><br />Something that affirms even more that we are "meant to be" is how much fulfillment we get out of prayer together, and how much our love grows each time we pray. It is such a wonderful and pure thing to be a part of. I keep asking God for signs and he delivers them by allowing my love for Him and for my sweetheart to grow. God is also bringing me closer to His heart and showing me my areas of sin and the broken places in my heart in which I need to invite Him to make me whole again. He is doing the same for my sweetheart. It is such an incredible thing to witness!! <br /><br />We also had a fantastic Valentine's Day, though it was more of a Valentine's Weekend Extravaganza! I think the bar may have been set a little high, as I was quite spoiled... It is so wonderful to be cherished by him, and know that my desires for life are a huge priority for him. <br /><br />We got some books in the mail that we'd ordered, Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts and the workbooks that go with it. We read the intro and are excited to get started! Many people have used it as a pre-marital counseling tool (though once we are engaged we WILL seek pre-marital counseling through a pastor). It stresses the importance of placing emphasis on preparing for your MARRIAGE, and not to get so caught up in WEDDING details that you forget that it's what comes after the wedding that is what you should be planning for. I like the sounds of that! I'll be sure to leave more of a review when we get into the "meat and potatoes" of the book. <br /><br />Well ya'll, I hope this message finds you blessed and happy! Love...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8209639647705729860.post-35767571695471324142010-02-16T10:45:42.987-07:002010-02-16T10:45:42.987-07:00If it feels right and you have had your eyes open ...If it feels right and you have had your eyes open looking for red flags, finding none, and realizing that you accept someone the way they are flaws and all and still find yourself head over heals in love with this mand and ready to say yes to his proposal. I say go with it!!! I met and married my husband in 9 months.... by far the best choice I ever made. It may not be right for everyone, but it's your life and you are the only one who has to live it. If it feels right to you (in all of your being) then get married and live your dream.Anna Averyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08894640204806405505noreply@blogger.com