Tuesday, December 22, 2009

♥Be a man!!

I've come across an alarming number of slacking, whining, good-for-nothing men who seem to have lost the definition of what it mean to be a man. Let me rant for a minute, please. Know that this blog is not directed toward all men, but it is directed toward a few specific boys who needs to get their crap together and start taking care of their families.

First, good on ya for working to provide for your families- it's an important and vital role. Know that it just doesn't stop there. If you think that your responsibilities end with a pay check, you're sorely mistaken. If you're not employed, it's understandable, but get off your ass and do something else to help keep the house in order.

For those of you that are married and have children- you are half of those children, therefore you are required to put in half the effort to take care of them. This means: giving mama a break (and, please, don't wait until she is at her wit's end and threatening to burn the house down), changing a diaper or two, paying for insurance- little ones have accidents. It also means that you are to set a good example for them. You're married now; the days of bachelorhood have ended. You don't need to sit on the couch every day, all day watching football, basketball, hockey or whatever sport may seem more important than the attention of your family.

If you have done, are doing or are thinking of doing drugs to ease whatever burden that is on your mind. You deserve to be kicked to the street.

Calling your wife names does not make you better; in fact, it makes you weaker, smaller and that much more of an idiot.

If Peter Griffin is your role model, I suggest a frontal lobotomy.

I don't really know what happened to this generation of men, but they have really dropped the ball. You would balk at the amount of women I have talked to that are abandoned by their husbands/father of their children, today. Really? I mean, reallllly? I know, I know, both parties can be responsible for this decline (I have a whole 'nother blog about that. Just so you know). But, men, be the bigger person! Grow a set of balls and be the man you are needed to be! Like your mama told you, life isn't fair; you may have to work two jobs, give up your hobbies for a little while, or just be content with not spending money- IT'S LIFE. You're not the only one making sacrifices.

Husbands, love your wives like you love your own body; Daddies, treat your children with patience and tenderness. In the end, you will only win. This, I promise. If you make an effort, be a good man/husband/daddy/human being, your family will adore you for it and you will be happy despite any hardships you may face.

9 comments:

Nomz said...

"If Peter Griffin is your role model, I suggest a frontal lobotomy."

LOL. LOL.

Nomz

Anonymous said...

And do you follow all the rules of being a good mom/wife? Why don't you blog about the perfect wife/mother and see if it's you to a "T".......I dare you.

Anonymous said...

Yeah it's amazing how much 'name calling' makes my husband feel better about himself. Jerk...

Sazaran said...

Anonymous, it seems that you LOVE to get on here and point out the obvious. How about THIS, I DARE YOU to use your real name for comments like that. I won't take offense to it. Of course I'm not (or was) the perfect wife. But, I tried my damndest. I did. I cried, prayed, apologized and tried to communicate my feelings and thoughts to the best of my ability? Did I lose my temper? Yes. Did I make mitakes? Yes. But the difference between me, the men to whom this post is not directed toward and the men to whom this blog IS directed toward (this may come as a surprise to you, but there are men out there that are exactly this way. Exactly. I am talking to them.) is that I try. Men of honor try. Men who are self-absorbed do not try. Did I say I was perfect by posting this blog? NO. You may have added a little bit of your own text or falsely read between the lines, but I never said that I have not made these same mistakes. Well, except for one thing: I HAVE NEVER DONE DRUGS. Especially since Malachi has been born. So, there is my "T" for ya.

Anonymous said...

Oh, and what is the difference between a man watching sports and you on the computer? Just wondering.....

Sazaran said...

YEAH, I'm sure you're just wondering. Go antagonize someone else.

Daily Offensive (baha!) said...

"Husbands, love your wives like you love your own body; Daddies, treat your children with patience and tenderness. In the end, you will only win. This, I promise. If you make an effort, be a good man/husband/daddy/human being, your family will adore you for it and you will be happy despite any hardships you may face. "

We're not expecting perfection...obviously, because hardships and growth come out of imperfection. Sazaran was touching on what matters most to her, and most women, and what a lot of the men around us have failed severely at. It doesn't mean that every man does...or that she is perfect, etc. If I had to guess...you like to stir Sarah's pot, add wood to her fire, etc., because you're bitter towards her recent choices. She's not attacking anybody close to you specifically, I promise. Please try to keep an open mind...and stay off her back.

Another blog will be posted this afternoon, please stop by and read it too. :)

Nomz

Anonymous said...

Sazaran,
I too have been under personal attack from my child's ex and his entire family---he abandoned us and felt his priorities needed to be partying with his friends and being a cowboy---that being said, I understand your frustrations, the hurt, the guilt that they try to throw at you, the rejection that you feel not only for yourself but also your son....I want to commend you for staying strong for your son, BEING there for him, nothing and I mean NOTHING speaks louder than words than your actions.....SO that being said, as hard as it is, ignore the insults, the lies, the cruelty that may be thrown at you from involved parties or "anonymous" individuals and continue to keep your son first, live for GOD, and the rest will fall into place. I am learning this the hard way and I can totally relate to where you are coming from and the hurtful words thrown at you---I have had sooooooooooo many lies spread about me by my ex and his family and have been treated so very poorly by them, but who is the one who has and continues and will continue to put my son first and take care of him with every fiber of my being and give him the love he deserves?.....Me. Actions speak louder than words---anytime you want to vent and not feel attacked for doing so, please facebook me.....and look to God, He is truly, truly, truly your rock and gives such love and peace for you and your son.
Much love and many prayers sent your way!!!!!
"j"

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